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Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make- and Keep Friends

SGD 14.00

We are taught that friendship is something that happens to us. A fortunate accident of proximity and chemistry, a gift from the universe rather than something we might actually cultivate with intention. And so we wait. We scroll through text messages that go unanswered and convince ourselves it means we are not worthy of friendship, that we lack some essential magnetism. We believe the myth because it absolves us of responsibility, and responsibility is terrifying.

But Marisa Franco offers a more empowering, if initially unsettling, truth: friendship is not a mystery. It is a practice. Understanding your attachment style (how you approach closeness, vulnerability, and belonging) is the key to unlocking what works and what fails in your relationships. The friend who doesn't text you back is not rejecting you; she is operating from her own architecture of fear and desire. The friendship that withers is not the victim of bad luck but of the small choices we make (or fail to make) every day.

Franco's work is not sentimental. It is archaeological, and she digs beneath the surface of our longing for connection to understand the actual mechanics of how bonds form and deepen. And in doing so, she hands us something we rarely receive: permission to stop waiting for friendship to find us, and instead to become the kind of person who knows how to find it, build it, and keep it alive. Because friendship, like all things worth having, requires the courage of intentional living.

We are taught that friendship is something that happens to us. A fortunate accident of proximity and chemistry, a gift from the universe rather than something we might actually cultivate with intention. And so we wait. We scroll through text messages that go unanswered and convince ourselves it means we are not worthy of friendship, that we lack some essential magnetism. We believe the myth because it absolves us of responsibility, and responsibility is terrifying.

But Marisa Franco offers a more empowering, if initially unsettling, truth: friendship is not a mystery. It is a practice. Understanding your attachment style (how you approach closeness, vulnerability, and belonging) is the key to unlocking what works and what fails in your relationships. The friend who doesn't text you back is not rejecting you; she is operating from her own architecture of fear and desire. The friendship that withers is not the victim of bad luck but of the small choices we make (or fail to make) every day.

Franco's work is not sentimental. It is archaeological, and she digs beneath the surface of our longing for connection to understand the actual mechanics of how bonds form and deepen. And in doing so, she hands us something we rarely receive: permission to stop waiting for friendship to find us, and instead to become the kind of person who knows how to find it, build it, and keep it alive. Because friendship, like all things worth having, requires the courage of intentional living.

  • Orders ship within 3-5 business days via SingPost or courier service, depending on your location within Singapore. You'll receive tracking information once your order is dispatched.

    Delivery Time 1-3 business days for most Singapore addresses.

    Shipping Costs Free

    A Note on Timing This is a one-woman operation. During particularly busy periods or when I'm unwell, processing may take longer. I'll update the homepage if significant delays are expected.

  • Returns are handled on a case-by-case basis.

    If something arrives damaged, defective, or significantly different from what was described, contact me within 7 days of delivery with photos. I'll make it right.

    For other situations (changed your mind, ordered the wrong size, or it simply isn't what you hoped) email me. I'll do my best to find a reasonable solution, though I can't guarantee returns in every case.

    This approach allows me to be fair and flexible while sustaining a very small operation.

  • About This Shop

    This shop exists in a transitional moment. The items here are inventory from a previous business. One built with different priorities, questions, and a different sense of what mattered. Over time, that business stopped reflecting how I think and what I want to say. So I let it go.

    What remains are these products: well-made, functional, some I still believe in completely, others that represent a version of my taste I've since outgrown. They're here because I'd rather see them used than stored, and because closing one chapter means clearing space for the next.

    This explains the pricing. These aren't luxury goods positioned at luxury prices. They're priced to move, well below their original retail value, because my goal is completion, not profit.

    What This Shop Isn't

    This isn't a carefully branded lifestyle destination. There's no aesthetic through-line being sold, no vision of the good life you can purchase in installments.

    It's not a manifesto in retail form.

    It's not permanent. When this inventory is gone, this shop may close, transform, or become something else entirely.

    On Selling Things

    To offer something for sale is to enter a complicated exchange. You're saying: this object is worth your money, your space, your attention. That claim should be made carefully.

    I'm making it less carefully here than I would if starting fresh, because these items already exist. They were already manufactured, shipped, stored. The environmental and economic cost has been paid. The question now is whether they can be useful rather than wasteful.

    Some of these things I'd buy again. Others taught me what I don't need. Both kinds are here.

  • For questions about orders, products, or anything else:

    Email: ann@greataveruins.com

    I typically respond within 1-3 business days. I'm running this alone, which means responses may occasionally be slower during especially busy periods or personal circumstances. Your patience is genuinely appreciated.