We have been taught that transformation requires severity. That to change ourselves, we must first despise the selves that need changing. We starve ourselves into submission, we shame ourselves into compliance, we wage war against our own desires and call it discipline. And yet we remain stuck, cycling endlessly through the same patterns, because we have mistaken violence for motivation.
Shahroo Izadi offers a quieter, more radical proposition: that kindness is not the reward for changing but the engine of change itself. Drawing from her years working with people caught in addiction, she illuminates what psychologists have been slowly confirming: that we cannot think our way into a new way of living; we can only live our way into a new way of thinking. And we can only do that if we stop treating ourselves like problems to be solved and start treating ourselves like people we actually care about.
This is not the tyranny of positive thinking. This is the liberation of honest compassion. The recognition that our habits are not moral failures but information, that our struggles are not shameful but human, and that the only force strong enough to change the architecture of our lives is not punishment but understanding. Izadi shows us how to map our own patterns with the same nonjudgmental curiosity we would bring to a friend's suffering, and in doing so, she remaps the whole terrain of what change actually requires.
We have been taught that transformation requires severity. That to change ourselves, we must first despise the selves that need changing. We starve ourselves into submission, we shame ourselves into compliance, we wage war against our own desires and call it discipline. And yet we remain stuck, cycling endlessly through the same patterns, because we have mistaken violence for motivation.
Shahroo Izadi offers a quieter, more radical proposition: that kindness is not the reward for changing but the engine of change itself. Drawing from her years working with people caught in addiction, she illuminates what psychologists have been slowly confirming: that we cannot think our way into a new way of living; we can only live our way into a new way of thinking. And we can only do that if we stop treating ourselves like problems to be solved and start treating ourselves like people we actually care about.
This is not the tyranny of positive thinking. This is the liberation of honest compassion. The recognition that our habits are not moral failures but information, that our struggles are not shameful but human, and that the only force strong enough to change the architecture of our lives is not punishment but understanding. Izadi shows us how to map our own patterns with the same nonjudgmental curiosity we would bring to a friend's suffering, and in doing so, she remaps the whole terrain of what change actually requires.
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