We are taught that friendship is something that happens to us. A fortunate accident of proximity and chemistry, a gift from the universe rather than something we might actually cultivate with intention. And so we wait. We scroll through text messages that go unanswered and convince ourselves it means we are not worthy of friendship, that we lack some essential magnetism. We believe the myth because it absolves us of responsibility, and responsibility is terrifying.
But Marisa Franco offers a more empowering, if initially unsettling, truth: friendship is not a mystery. It is a practice. Understanding your attachment style (how you approach closeness, vulnerability, and belonging) is the key to unlocking what works and what fails in your relationships. The friend who doesn't text you back is not rejecting you; she is operating from her own architecture of fear and desire. The friendship that withers is not the victim of bad luck but of the small choices we make (or fail to make) every day.
Franco's work is not sentimental. It is archaeological, and she digs beneath the surface of our longing for connection to understand the actual mechanics of how bonds form and deepen. And in doing so, she hands us something we rarely receive: permission to stop waiting for friendship to find us, and instead to become the kind of person who knows how to find it, build it, and keep it alive. Because friendship, like all things worth having, requires the courage of intentional living.
We are taught that friendship is something that happens to us. A fortunate accident of proximity and chemistry, a gift from the universe rather than something we might actually cultivate with intention. And so we wait. We scroll through text messages that go unanswered and convince ourselves it means we are not worthy of friendship, that we lack some essential magnetism. We believe the myth because it absolves us of responsibility, and responsibility is terrifying.
But Marisa Franco offers a more empowering, if initially unsettling, truth: friendship is not a mystery. It is a practice. Understanding your attachment style (how you approach closeness, vulnerability, and belonging) is the key to unlocking what works and what fails in your relationships. The friend who doesn't text you back is not rejecting you; she is operating from her own architecture of fear and desire. The friendship that withers is not the victim of bad luck but of the small choices we make (or fail to make) every day.
Franco's work is not sentimental. It is archaeological, and she digs beneath the surface of our longing for connection to understand the actual mechanics of how bonds form and deepen. And in doing so, she hands us something we rarely receive: permission to stop waiting for friendship to find us, and instead to become the kind of person who knows how to find it, build it, and keep it alive. Because friendship, like all things worth having, requires the courage of intentional living.
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THE REGIONAL TARIFF
Domestic (Singapore): Complimentary delivery on all orders.
International: $35 SGD flat rate.
OPERATIONAL TERRITORIES The Depot services the following zones:
The Straits & Archipelago: Singapore, Brunei, Philippines, Vietnam, Thailand.
The North Pacific: Japan, South Korea, Taiwan.
The Greater Bay: Hong Kong, China.
The Indian Ocean: India.
The Southern Anchor: Australia.
